I recently had a friendly debate with a wise black Christian man about happiness, and he made a good point. He essentially said happiness is not constant; it’s ever-changing, based on where you are in life, so you can never truly chase happiness. It’s like the bunny chasing after the carrot while running on a treadmill. He was making the point that since happiness is ever-changing, it should never be sought after, and women just need to be happy with where they are and stop seeking something that can never be attained.
This is where I didn’t fully agree. I believe that happiness can be attained, and it can be constant—only when it is found from going within. Just because there will be moments of other emotions grabbing our attention because life is going to LIFE, it doesn’t mean that the inherent happiness found within doesn’t exist anymore. The problem that the world is having is that a woman cannot cultivate inner happiness until she knows what she wants on an intimate level with herself. She cannot be in environments that don’t support her desire to explore her inner world and find answers that can lead to her happiness. With the majority of the male population feeling like her desire to do that is selfish and wrong, women rarely feel comfortable putting themselves and their happiness first. Because of her pure heart, she refuses to be seen as a bad person and holds on until life makes it very clear for her to get on track. |
